How to Achieve Balance And Earn More Money

Applying the Law of Fair Exchange to Transform Your Life and Relationships

After losing my husband in a tragic accident, my world was turned upside down. For years, I felt like I was stumbling through life, barely keeping it together. There were countless nights filled with tears and days where everything seemed to blur into a haze of grief and confusion. I was a single mum, struggling to keep my business afloat and every single day it felt like I was giving everything I had, yet receiving little in return apart from exhaustion and heartache.

I poured my heart into my work, my daughter and my responsibilities, but the more I gave, the more it seemed like I was met with an endless void. I couldn’t understand why life felt so unfair, why my efforts seemed to yield so little. It was like I was stuck in a loop of giving without any sense of reciprocation.

"Why does it seem like I'm always losing?" was a constant thought in my mind.

But then, something shifted. My eyes encountered the Universal Laws and my brain stumbled upon the Law of Fair Exchange which is a fascinating twist on the Law of Duality. This discovery was like a light bulb moment for me. I started to roll back the film of my life, examining the years of turmoil with a new lens. Slowly, the fog began to lift and I started to see the reality that had been hidden in plain sight.

I realised that for every instance I felt shortchanged, there were subtle yet significant moments of balance. Acts of kindness from friends, unexpected opportunities and moments of genuine gratitude from clients started to come into focus. These weren’t grand gestures, but they collectively painted a picture of an unseen equilibrium in my life.

Understanding this law transformed my perspective. It taught me that even in my darkest hours, there was a hidden balance at play. This realisation didn't erase the pain, but it helped me see that life’s exchanges, no matter how lopsided they seem at first glance, eventually even out.

So, why should you care about this law? Because understanding it can change how you see your interactions and experiences. It can transform resentment into recognition of hidden value and shift your mindset from feeling like a perpetual loser to seeing the deeper balance in your life.

What is the Law of Fair Exchange?

This universal principle suggests that every interaction, every exchange, inherently carries a balance. It means that for every give, there is a take and for every action, there is an equal reaction.

When I first stumbled upon this concept, I was sceptical. I mean, how could there be balance when my life felt like a constant uphill battle? But the more I pondered it, the more it made sense. It was like discovering a hidden thread that connected all my experiences, weaving them into a coherent tapestry.

The Illusion of Winners and Losers

Life often feels like a game where some win big and others lose hard. But here's the thing: this perception is just that—an illusion. It’s easy to look at someone’s life and think they’ve got it all, while feeling like you’re stuck on the losing side. But let’s take a closer look.

During the toughest times, I often felt like a loser. I remember a particularly rough patch when every attempt to grow my business seemed to hit a brick wall. I was exhausted, emotionally drained, and ready to throw in the towel. I felt like I was pouring everything into a black hole with nothing to show for it.

But then I started to look deeper. I thought about my daughter, how despite everything, she was thriving. She was doing well in school, making friends, and growing into a strong and confident girl. The time and energy I invested in her were paying off in ways that weren’t immediately obvious. My sacrifices were contributing to her success, her happiness, and that was a win—a big one.

Similarly, I had a client, J, who felt perpetually shortchanged. He worked tirelessly but felt like recognition and rewards were always just out of reach. We sat down and looked at his journey. We uncovered that his hard work had built a reputation for reliability and integrity, which was why he was consistently getting projects, even if they didn’t always come with immediate accolades. His contributions were valued, and over time, those small wins added up to a solid foundation of respect and trust in his industry.

Let me share another story from my journey. A close friend, seeing how much I was struggling with my business, surprised me by paying for a course for me. She believed I needed a new direction. At first, I was quite angry and upset with myself for not succeeding in what I was doing and with the fact that I didn’t have the money to make any career change. But I took that opportunity and studied project management despite feeling like a failure and in being debt to my friend.

But as I engaged with the course, I gained invaluable skills that I later applied to my business. It wasn’t wasted time at all. This course helped me steer my business more effectively and provided me with a fresh perspective. That gesture from my friend was one of the many ways the universe was balancing out my giving with receiving, even if I hadn’t seen it before.

The Law of Fair Exchange shows us that what we perceive as losing can often be a necessary part of the process toward a greater, often unseen, balance. It’s about looking beyond the immediate outcomes and understanding the broader picture.

Let’s talk about practical steps to align ourselves with this principle. These steps have helped me and my clients tremendously, and I hope they’ll do the same for you.

1.     Resolving Past Inequities

Looking back at my life, I realised that I had accumulated a lot of emotional  baggage from feeling like I was constantly giving without receiving. It was a heavy load to carry, and it kept me stuck in a cycle of resentment and exhaustion.

One of the most powerful steps I took was to actively resolve these past inequities. I still remember sitting down one evening, surrounded by old notes and memories, determined to find the hidden balances in my life. It was an emotional rollercoaster, let me tell you. As I flipped through pages and pictures, tears streamed down my face, but so did moments of realisation.

I recalled times when I felt particularly cheated or undervalued. Like when I worked tirelessly on a project at my old job, only to have someone else take the credit. It stung deeply. But as I revisited that painful memory, I also saw the hidden gains. That experience taught me resilience, strengthened my skills, and pushed me to eventually start my own business. It wasn't just a loss; it was a lesson that propelled me forward.

Now, I must admit, the journey to centre myself didn’t end that night. It was just the beginning. Since then, I’ve been keeping notes of all the moments I can recall where the balance of giving and receiving played out. The more I work on it, the more memories surface. It takes time, patience and a lot of self-reflection, but I'm willing to keep going. This ongoing process helps me see the fairness in past experiences and helps me move forward with a clearer, lighter heart.

2.     Engaging in fair transactions and making money

Along with making peace with my past, I focused on engaging in fair transactions moving forward. This meant being mindful of the balance in my interactions and ensuring they were mutually beneficial.

Your self-worth is directly proportionate to how well you can fairly equalise or equilibrate what you give and take. The more you give what others love and receive, the more fulfilling your life becomes.

If we think too highly of yourselves, you might start looking down on others, feeling superior and expecting them to cater to your needs. This is where narcissism sneaks in, making you believe that people owe you something. And when you are narcissistic, you are less likely to build wealth.

On the other hand, if you undervalue yourselves, you put others on a pedestal, feeling inferior and always trying to please them. This can lead to unhealthy altruism, where you think you owe them more than is fair. And when you altruistic, you are less likely to build wealth.

“Whenever there is not a sustainable fair exchange, you tend to create an emotion.”

But when you find a balance, you don’t overestimate or underestimate yourself. In this balanced state, you can have fair and sustainable exchanges.

You see the value in both, you and others, leading to interactions based on mutual respect and fair give-and-take. It's all about maintaining a healthy balance where neither party feels indebted or superior, ensuring that all exchanges are fair and just.

This balance is crucial for healthy, long-lasting relationships and interactions and for building wealth.

When I sold my car, I was tempted to hide a few minor issues to get a better price. But remembering the Law of Fair Exchange, I decided to be upfront about everything. It was a nerve-wracking decision, but it paid off. The buyer appreciated my honesty and even offered a fair price, knowing exactly what they were getting. It was a win-win situation that reinforced the value of my integrity.

Struggling with money can feel like an endless cycle of stress and frustration. But applying the Law of Fair Exchange can transform how you view and handle financial challenges.

For example, during a particularly tough financial period, I was overwhelmed by bills and the pressure of making ends meet. Back then I didn’t anything about the Law of Fair Exchange but I started examining my spending habits and identifying areas where I could cut back without compromising my quality of life too much. I started prioritising expenses, focusing on what truly added value to my life and business.

After finding out about the Law of Fair Exchange, I started to see the hidden value in my financial struggles. Each setback taught me invaluable lessons about budgeting, prioritising expenses and the importance of financial planning. These lessons, though hard-earned, have become the foundation of my financial resilience today. Instead of seeing these struggles as losses, I began to recognise them as opportunities for growth and learning.

Conclusion

Aligning with the Law of Fair Exchange requires us to look beyond immediate gains and losses, recognising the deeper balance in our lives. By resolving past inequities and committing to fair, transparent transactions, we can create a more harmonious and fulfilling existence.

Remember, it's not always easy. It involves vulnerability, honesty, and sometimes facing uncomfortable truths. But the reward is a life that feels fairer, more balanced and ultimately more satisfying.

Let's embrace this journey together and discover the hidden balances that await us.